Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Help me "Pay it Forward"

As you know by my last posting about AIDS and HIV I am very passionate about the cause . I usually share alot of my inner feelings but this one is different. Not all of you know the WHY behind why I wrote this and a few others about discrimination and sexuality . It was not that long ago -less than 6 months that an online friend of mine had committed suicide . He was upfront and honest with everyone with his diagnosis , He was HIV positive and told everyone and tried to educate them on how and how not they could contract it. To alot of people it fell on deaf ears and empty hearts. His parents pretty well disowned him -his classmates would make a huge deal if he sneezed in class even though my friend covered his mouth and nose fully. His parents would no longer sit with him in church on Sunday . What should have been the most secure place for him fell apart. People would scoot away on their seats in church. He was a big hugger !! Eventually he stopped getting hugs . When people say words are just letters strung together; they are wrong. Words can be weapons and in my friends case they mortally wounded him . As much as he tried going on in life smiling and acting upbeat -he was dying emotionally. He felt unattached from everyone . People say when people commit suicide "they took the easy way out " To maybe me and maybe you ; it was , but life for him from the time he was diagnosed and was open and honest was not easy. He was made to feel all alone and he died all alone . His brother told me that at his funeral there was lots of people and lots of crying and hugs . A little too late I think. My friend could have used those tears of compassion and those hugs and those words of acceptance. A little too late. I don't want to see someone else go through that which he did .

I am asking ; not for myself; but just as a matter of compassion for our fellow man if you could post this link on your page . I would prefer you not post what I wrote here . It still hurts to much to write about it again yet to think about it but people need to know words can do as much harm ; if not more as actions. The link is to the Cambridge Advocate a local online paper here and the write up is Harsh Words Perhaps ! A Harsher Reality ! Thank You xo Joe

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